New Additions

We've been rejoicing about the birth of our seventh grandchild. She was born just a little over a week ago to a woman whose name I don't know.  Her parents are two lovely people we consider a son and a daughter.  The new baby is perfect and I can't wait to hear her call me Nana for the first time. And I should probably explain.

I always wanted four children.  Even as a little girl I would wile away the hours playing with my dolls and dreaming up names for my kids. My firstborn would be a boy.  Then I would have twins, one of each.  And finishing with a girl seemed right. Sometimes, in my active imagination, the twins came first.  But there were always twins.  

Fortunately, God knew that I didn't handle sleep deprivation very well so he just gave me one at a time.  Yes, a boy came first.  Probably a good thing since Paul and I only had a boy's name picked out.  No, they didn't do ultrasounds back in prehistoric days unless they had a fearfully good reason. So I just assumed it was a boy because that was the plan.  Two and a half years later, a beautiful, bald, baby girl arrived.  We were still debating her middle name at the hospital and we took a vote with the nurses.  Praise the Lord she wasn't a boy or we would have had to start from scratch on the naming process.

I may have mentioned before that Paul came from a family of nineteen.  As one of the older ones, he informed me that he had already helped raise a family and he wasn't excited about starting another one.  Since I wanted four and he wasn't too enthused about any, the obvious compromise was two.  (He has since recovered from his teenage experiences as a surrogate parent to his siblings and seeing how much fun his own could be he has expressed the wish we would have had a few more of our own.  Too late, I'm afraid.)

I was the youngest of eleven and that meant a full house on holidays when all my older brothers and sisters came home with their own broods and mayhem ensued for a few days.  As the years went by, and after the passing of both my parents, my siblings began to spend those holidays with their own families.  Most of them had grandchildren providing plenty of their own excitement.  I started to regret all over again that we didn't have a few more of our own.  And then God gave them to me.  All grown up and potty-trained and everything.

Our beautiful daughter, no longer bald or a baby, married Jim from a family small by Amish standards.  His only sibling, a sister married a man from a large, very low order Amish family.  And that's when things started to get interesting. In the stricter sects of Amish, shunning is a common practice.  Although this young man had never become a member of the church, those of his family who remain Amish have little or nothing to do with him.   Paul and I have had a little experience with the shunning business.  Not among our immediate families, who, fortunately for us, did not hold tightly to the tradition, but we were aware of the practice being used against our parents years ago. It's not a fun thing, to be ostracized because you are different. 

After a few years of Christmases with a short table and relative calm, Paul and I were thrilled to have Marlene and Aaron come whenever they were free for the holidays.  That was most of the time, since Aaron was without family, as it were, and Marlene's family (Jim) was at our house already.  I told them they were the two kids I wanted but didn't have.  And so it was.  And is.

Aaron and Marlene have been in the adoption process for some time now. It's a journey not meant for the faint of heart.  It takes far more stamina than simply giving birth.  After much patience, ups, downs, thrills, disappointments, nail-biting waits and lots of paperwork, the call came last week that a little girl would be theirs.  If only all the women who feel like abortion is their only option would be able to see the joy they could be giving to hearts longing to hold a baby!  We laughed.  We cried.  I think there was even a little screaming from some of us.

I posted the exciting news on Facebook, that we have our seventh grandchild.  After several inquiries from people who know a lot about us, but didn't know we have twice the number of children they thought, I decided to explain.  And for anyone who thinks if you're not blood it doesn't count quite as much, well, you're wrong.  I have other extended-family members who became part of my life through adoption.  I can't imagine my life without them.  They mean just as much to me as those who were born to us. Maybe more.  Okay, family, don't freak out.  I love even you crazy ones we had no choice in taking.

The older I get the more thankful I am for our over-sized family trees.  Between Paul and I we have twenty-eight siblings. I gave up on sending birthday cards years ago; I just email instead.  And if I ever find myself homeless, well, two weeks at each place and the year is covered.  But if I were an only child I know what I would do.  I would "adopt" a few other people who have few options on holidays.  I'm guessing it wouldn't take long at all to fill up a house.  Add some good food, some music, and some great table games (might I suggest Euchre, Rook, and Settlers of Catan!) and you have instant memory-makers. And there's no need for Christmas shopping.  Win. Win.

Here's to a long table on Christmas, shouting to be heard above the laughter, and chaos supreme.  Here's to the itty-bitty newest member of the family.  Sorry little girl, we're yours whether you like it or not.

Bird Talk

This morning Hazel explained the finer details of training doves.  She is starting with a new flock, fifty-five birds that have been kept inside their aviary since November. She purchased them from a place twenty miles away and the challenge is to reprogram them to accept this as their new home base. In two weeks she will start releasing some of them.  She explained they need to be hungry when she lets them out, late in the afternoon.  Since they will want to be back inside to roost when it's dark and they will be ready to eat a good meal, they will return to the coop of their own accord. Eventually they will be able to fly home from distances of up to three hundred miles.

When Hazel sees doves engaging in courting rituals she tags them, later placing them in nesting boxes to raise their own chicks; eventually she hopes to breed out the spotted birds and have a flock of snow white doves. Perfect for releasing at weddings, funerals, and any occasion where an impressive air show is called for.  It was all very intriguing.  How do these birds know where their home is?  How do identical birds decide who they want to choose as a mate? 

After a relaxing day hanging out, relaxing, and generally feeling stress seeping out of my system, I joined the fifty or so relatives that had congregated for an evening of awesome food, fellowship, ping pong, card games, and an all-around good time. I have three brothers and two sisters living within an hour or two of our present location.  Along with nieces, nephews, in-laws, and a friend or two it made for a lively party. I am blessed to have siblings I actually like.  Getting together with them is always enjoyable and since we are scattered far and wide it doesn't happen as often as I'd like.  Maybe that's why we all like each other.

On The Road Again

This has been a long winter.  Especially for those of us in the frozen north.  Paul and I have been counting down the days until we can head south for a few weeks of sun and relaxation. This past week I’ve had plenty of time to contemplate the coming vacation while I was laid up with the flu.

Last week I went from perfectly fine to sick as a dog one night while I slept.  General malaise followed by ever-increasing misery culminated in a low point of hugging the porcelain throne whilst hurling forth some nasty.  To add to my misery, the power was out and there’s no window in my bathroom.  Fortunately I remembered which corner the toilet was in so I managed to crawl to it in the dark.

My first concern was whether or not one week was sufficient for recovery because Florida was waiting and I needed to be on my way, nausea notwithstanding.  I hobbled off to the doctor and explained to him that I do not have it in my schedule to be ill so “give me something.”  Being the compassionate sort, he obliged and I left the pharmacy with all manner of pills and potions.  I can now tell you which ones will increase the aforementioned queasiness and which ones might actually aid in healing.

This morning the big day was finally here.  With yet another winter storm forecast for this coming weekend, we felt like we were escaping in the nick of time.  Our plan is to spend a few days in West Virginia visiting my brother, two sisters, and their clans, after which we will mosey on south until we reach a place where the temperature is above freezing.  We are both beginning to wonder if such a place exists.  We told and listened to every global warming joke there is and they long ago ceased to be humorous.  Now they are usually accompanied with lots of eye-rolling and sarcasm.

I don’t think I’ve ever been to West Virginia in the wintertime.  With all the leaves gone from the trees, we were impressed with all the trails visible up the sides of the mountains.  Who, we wondered, would be crazy enough to actually drive on such roads?  Oh, yeah, probably my relatives. One of my sisters, along with her husband, lives at the top, yes, the top, of one of those mountains.  Their view is spectacular and they live completely off the grid.  In a nice house with electric, flush toilets, and everything.  Every time we go there Paul ruminates for weeks about how he can get us off the grid.  Either we annoy the neighbors in our subdivision with some really picturesque solar panels or we join the Amish.  Neither seems acceptable to me right now.  Maybe some day.

My brother Bill lives close to the top of a mountain too. With a horse, a dog, some goats, a donkey, and a flock of doves, he and his wife Hazel are clearly animal lovers.  Their dog, Katie, made us feel like long-lost friends.  Hazel rescued Katie from the middle of the road when she was just a wee pup.  Bill said in their discussions on what sort of dog they wanted to own he preferred a blue heeler and Hazel wanted a beagle.  I kid you not, Katie had a beagle head and a blue heeler body. 

After supper, stuffed with delicious steaks from beef that was frolicking outside last month, we could see deer scattered in the front yard, in the back yard, and probably in the side yard, if we would have looked. With bellies full, it was a fun evening of catching up and solving the world’s problems.  

I’m feeling better already just knowing the twelve inches of white stuff predicted for Ohio is not going to fall until we are well away.

Home Again

Leaving was less stressful than arriving because we made certain not to exit during rush hour traffic. Jaimee' took the GPS in hand and gave me point-by-point directions which made negotiating the city streets pretty simple and straight forward.  And, unlike the day we arrived, no one swung around me while I was waiting at an intersection to turn left, so he could turn left before me.  I admit I laughed and admired his brazenness.

The panoramic view of the city was breathtaking as we crossed the George Washington Bridge and headed toward New Jersey. I left with plenty to think about from our short visit. 

The millions of people who call this city home come from every corner of the planet.  It was a new experience to be the rarity, surrounded by people from diverse cultures and ethnic origins.  Growing up in Amish Country means almost everyone looks like me.  I found it an interesting and vulnerable sensation to be the minority; I think it's something everyone should taste at least once.

I wondered, while riding the subway, about my fellow-passengers. The man wearing a robe that reached the floor, the beautiful lady carrying large shopping bags emblazoned with designer names, the petite twenty-something in the burqa, reading a tiny book written in Arabic script, the young Hispanic housewife, heavy with child, a pre-schooler in tow, the weary, middle-aged Asian woman who determinedly dove across my lap to reach the vacated seat beside me. . . what were their lives like?  Where were they from?  What brought them to New York? Or maybe they were born here.  Maybe I was the foreigner.

I had an in-law, years ago, who found the country frightening.  All the strange night sounds, the darkness, even the silence; she found them all strange and unsettling. She felt about the solitude the way I felt about the crowded trains.  

Since our trip to the city coincided with the NYC Marathon, an event with 47,000 participants, police presence was heavy, with, at one point three cops beside me on the train. I found it reassuring to see them and I tried not to think about the bombing, only five months ago, during the Boston Marathon.  When the train I was riding stopped between stations, underground and with no explanation, several scenarios played themselves out in my mind, none of them pleasant. It was a little late to be wishing I hadn't seen movies like Daylight and The Taking of Pelham 123. I'm both claustrophobic and afraid of exploding devices, although closed-in spaces hold first place on my fear-factor chart. No one around me seemed to notice we had stopped. No one even looked up from their cell phones, magazines, or iPads.  Give me crickets and the occasional raccoon anytime, I thought to myself. At least there's no danger of a fiery demise with them.  Of course there's no amazing global cuisine or incredible Broadway entertainment either. There's just. . .well, crickets. 

A big surprise for me was the friendliness of the New Yorkers.  I thought big-city people, especially in the east were, uh, how do I put this. . .rude.  I thought it was every man for himself.  I did not meet one such person.  It was great fun haggling with the vendors in China Town.  I got the impression they enjoyed it as much as I did.  The proprietor of the little coffee shop tucked in a side street off Madison Avenue was a great host who obviously loved his job.  The policeman handing out flyers about the missing 14-year-old with autism paused to exchange pleasantries and give us directions.  Even the sales people along Fifth Avenue who could surely tell we were a lost cause for any potential commissions treated us with respect. 

 

When I drug my tired self into my own bed after a long day on the road, looking forward to a night without partying neighbors to wake me at 2:30 in the morning, I remembered thinking when we planned this trip I wouldn't want to do it more than once.  I was wrong.  There is so much more to see than can be packed into two days and three nights.  And I still haven't tasted a knish. 

NYC - Day Three

We woke up to a cold and windy day but no rain, so no complaints here.  We did all return to our room to add another layer after stepping outside and realizing there had been a considerable drop in temperatures during the night.

Painfully aware of our inexperience in subway matters we left for Manhattan by 9:30, assuming this would give even us time to be at our 3pm musical on time.  After success in our first train switch we decided on another bold move: to disembark at Fifth Avenue and work our way on foot to the theater.

From Fifth Avenue to Park Avenue to Broadway, and Madison Avenue we sauntered around stores that had prices well beyond our humble stations.  We saw homeless people digging through trash cans and picking out food discarded by those of us who have more than we need.  We passed the Roosevelt Hotel, famous for its world-renowned patrons.  We ogled the huge screens at Times Square, bombarding the visual senses with non-stop input.  We paused to hear musicians performing along the street.  We took pictures with Spider Man and a few minions. We sampled more food and Marlene finally got her New York Style pizza.

It seemed only minutes until it was time to see Newsies, our musical of choice.  And a good choice it was.  Great music, great acting, a great time.  Not least impressive was the organizational genius of the bathroom parade.  During intermission a million (give or take a few hundred thousand) women lined up to visit the facilities. Why men never seem to have to go to the bathroom is a mystery to me.  Anyway, I digress.  I was a little intimidated and depressed when the usher outside the bathroom door sent me to the end of the line which started one floor down (yes a full flight of stairs), around a corner and up a hallway.  I was hoping I'd get back in before the show started again.  Not to worry.  The line moved almost continuously.  A young lady inside the restroom called out every time any stall was empty and ladies were swept through at the speed of. . .well, a swiftly moving stream.

Since the time had "fallen back" last night, we came out of the theater at 6pm to find the sun had fully set.  It was anything but dark though.  I wonder if Times Square ever sleeps.  The streets were teeming with activity on every side.  Emboldened with our two days of NYC experience, we decided to walk the mile to Grand Central Station and catch the subway from there.  Shopping our way back to Park Avenue at the countless booths along the street, we made our way to yet another food court located in the huge train station.  Marlene got her sushi, I got my turkey and brie sandwich, and Jaimee' and Kara got their Chinese cuisine.  My plan was to pick up a slice of cheesecake for later but seeing the two homeless people scavenging through the trash for our scraps helped me decide I didn't need any more food.

Walking the four blocks from the subway to our hotel caused me much less concern than the first time we did it.  Only two days in and I already feel like the city might not be out to eat me alive after all.  Even the man using the tree for his own personal hydrant didn't freak me out too much.  We marched on by without so much as a second glance as if it happened in our neighborhood all the time.  Maybe that's why men rarely have to use a public restroom.

I'm so glad we came to see what NYC is all about although I'm sure we barely scratched the surface.  We never even saw the naked cowboy.  Maybe next time.

NYC- Day Two

What a perfect day to explore NYC!  The weather was spectacular.  It's hard to believe it's November.  We left our hotel around 8:20 and walked to the train station four blocks away.  And then our ignorance of all things NY made for an interesting hour to follow.

I asked the ticket guy manning the booth at the 7 train how we get to Junction Blvd.  My niece, Misty, had told us someone would meet us there; she had invited us over for breakfast. Easy enough.  In theory.  The ticket guy, with a heavy accent that rendered his instructions relatively impossible to understand, told us that we basically couldn't get there from here.  Okay, that's not exactly true but we would have to take this train that-a-way to the next stop, cross the platform, get on the next train in the opposite direction a few more stops to our destination.  Feeling very unsure that I had understood correctly, I asked a nice lady passenger on the platform how we get to Junction Blvd.  

"Go to the first stop, get off this train, cross the platform and go the other way on that train until you get there."  Okay, so far everyone seemed to agree.  Why should I be concerned that the map said we are heading out of Queens.  My niece lives in Queens, but what do I know?  So we did as we were told and got off at the next station.  It seemed all wrong to me but, again, what do I know?  In truth, I freely admit to total ignorance when it comes to trains in NYC.  We got off in due course at a place that was definitely NOT Junction Blvd.  

I decided to check with the nice policeman handing out flyers. Get on the next train, go BACK three stops, get off at the fourth stop, he told us.  A quick call to Misty confirmed that we had been going the wrong way, after we were going the right way and the policeman, while sending us in the right direction, had told us the wrong number of stops before we were to exit the train.  Eventually we got to the ellusive Function Blvd where Josh, Misty's husband, was waiting to walk with us the eight or so blocks to my niece Margaret's place.  By then we had worked up an appetite for the amazing breakfast waiting for us.

My nephew Jon and his family were there also and it was a fun time for us.  And much to our delight, Misty agreed to be our tour guide for the day.  Thanks to her we saw much more of NYC than we would have if left on our own.  We would probably still be lost in the subway system.  

Public transport will be a major memory for me whenever I think of this trip.  The homeless, schizophrenic man who rode quite a distance with us did his own brand of Kung Fu Fighting with himself and his running conversation to no one there was unnerving.  He kept his two big garbage bags well-guarded and it was a relief when he finally got off the train.  I wondered if he might live there, wandering on and off at will, kind of like the subway haunt in the movie Ghost.  I think it a distinct possibility.  I mused about his story, whatever it may be.  At one time, he was someone's baby boy.  What happened to bring him to this?

The musicians scattered at random along the subterranean walkways impressed me with their skill.

Open guitar cases asked for donations and one older gentleman caught my eye.  He pointed imperiously to his case and I obediently produced a five dollar bill.

Misty took us to Ground Zero first.  Seeing the new freedom tower and trying to imagine the horror that took place there a little over a decade ago - well, it was impossible to imagine.  We talked about where we were when it happened.  Everyone remembers where they were at certain traumatic moments.  I remember, as a child, where I was when our family got the word that J.F.K. was shot.  And I will always remember where I was on 9-11.  Our family was on Nevin's Lake in the upper peninsula of Michigan, fishing from a pontoon boat. We were frozen in front of the TV for hours after we came back to the house, shocked and gripped with uncertainty as to what the future held.

St. Paul's chapel across from the Trade Center location held even more fascination for me.  George Washington had attended there along with many other notable men who had helped to shape the country in its infancy.  The Harbinger, a novel by Jonathan Cahn tells of Bible prophecies that could be interpreted as foretelling the tragedy of the towers including details of a certain sycamore tree in the corner of the churchyard that fell victim to the terrorists on 9-11 as well.  An interesting read whether you agree with its theories or not.

Next we walked quite a distance to catch the Staten Island Ferry.  We meandered through parks, along the water, across busy highways and past sculptures shaped like musical instruments.  The blue sky and perfect temperatures made the walk a pleasure in itself. People walking dogs, people on bicycles, people doing nothing; everyone was making the most of the unusual gift of a perfect day in November. From the ferry we were able to catch a good view of Lady Liberty and spectacular scenes of the city itself.  We could see Jersey across the water and Staten Island as well.  It was good.

Then it was time for China Town and Little Italy.  Merchants hawking their wares and delicious smells tempting us to try all manner of delicacies.  We yielded to temptation and enjoyed tickling our taste buds before following Misty back to the subway.  We got off at 111th and walked the five blocks to our hotel.  Amazingly we found it with only one wrong turn involved.

After ordering Chinese food in and taking a certain eight-year-old to the pool we all felt the day had been a huge success.  Largely thanks to Misty and her guidance.  And tomorrow we're on our own.  I hope we learned as much today as we think we did about how to get from point A to point B.

While I''m country born and bred, I have to admit the energy one feels pulsing through this city makes it easy to see why so many people choose this life.  My nieces and nephew who live here all agree it's where they want to be.  They feel the same connection to a place teeming with a multicultural diversity that I feel when I see the horse-drawn carriages and rolling hills in my own community.   And I'm starting to understand it.  This city has the potential to draw you in and make you a part of itself.

NYC: Day One

I left home this morning and picked up my daughter, my granddaughter, and my "adopted" daughter.  We turned east on 77 and set off for a four-day trip to NYC.  For people from the country this is no small thing.  Fortunately for us we have family living there to guide us in the way of city life.  As I've mentioned before, we have family everywhere.

For most of our trip we enjoyed light traffic and beautiful scenery.  The leaves were really putting on their best autumn faces for our pleasure and we saw only a rare farm scattered here and there on the rolling hills.  I had no idea one could travel all day through Ohio, Pennsylvania, New Jersey and New York without seeing any major metropolises. And then we saw The City.

As luck, or bad timing would have it, we managed to arrive during rush hour.  The traffic leaving the city was at a complete stop more than once, stretched as far as the eye could see.  I used to think driving from Sugarcreek to Berlin is an exercise in patience.  Not so much anymore.  Crawling along at 40 mph with the occasional pause for a tourist gawking at a buggy does not compare with four lanes of traffic at a dead stop.  Thankfully, those of us heading toward Gomorrah, as Paul has taken to calling it the past few days, kept moving along at breathtaking speeds.  At one point I followed traffic between two stopped vehicles, fender-bender or mechanical problems I know not and didn't stop to ask.  A few minutes later an accident happened right behind us but there was no place or time to get involved.  All the pertinent cars stopped and emptied out their occupants, the other million or so kept on getting out of Dodge.  When I kept saying "Jesus!"  I was not taking the Lord's name in vain; I was in fervent prayer.  And He was faithful.  We are alive and happily ensconced in our hotel.

The kind lady from the front desk had assured me on the phone, yesterday, that although there are not enough spaces to park for all the rooms at the hotel, they are "almost never all taken" and I "don't need to worry."    This, of course, did little to dispel my propensity for worrying.  After passing it the first time around, we drove into the parking lot beside the hotel, the lot marked "rental cars."  Thank-you Jesus, it was also for use by hotel guests and we got one of the last spots available on the lot, right close to the entrance to the hotel and securely surrounded with a fence.

Since it was getting dark by the time we got checked-in and hauled all our luggage to the seventh floor (yes we are four females so between us we probably brought ten pairs of shoes and numerous bags and suitcases), we debated whether we should venture out and about in unfamiliar territory at night.  The lady at the desk assured us it was safe and hey, we were not steered wrong on the availability of a parking space, so off we went.  I didn't know I could walk so fast but when motivated by the eery sensation of impending doom, well, the girls could barely keep up with me.  

We ended up at Victoria's Pizzeria, promised by Google to be a "hole-in-the-wall with great food."  Marlene was wanting some authentic New York style pizza so that sounded good.  And our enchilada's, burritos, and guacamole hot sauce were most excellent, indeed.  A steamy Latin drama was playing on the overhead screens and we didn't need to speak the language to understand.  Corona, the neighborhood we would be staying in for the next few days, has been changing from mostly African American to Hispanic and, indeed, it looked like we had stepped into South America in our four-block walk from the hotel.  I guess Marlene's pizza will have to wait for another day. 

Back at the hotel I got a quick tutorial from the pool guy on where the 7 train's station is, how long it would take to get there, and where we should go when we got on it.  I think I have it straight. We'll see when we set out to meet the relatives in the morning.  

Looking out my seventh floor window I can see the almost nonstop elevated trains running. And I hear bagpipes.  Yes, there are two guys standing in the parking lot playing bagpipes.  Sirens harmonize as a crisis erupts a few blocks away.  This is all pretty exciting but I wouldn't mind seeing a buggy right about now.